Wedding season

Today, as i opened facebook, I got to know that two of my college mates got engaged this weekend and their mariages are scheduled for the next quarter. This has now become very common, as I am progressing towards mid twenties, many of my peers are heading towards the nuptails.
Most of the times, I just like their pics and congratulate them,mentally calculating one more removal from the list of eligible maidens I knew.. ;-)
Yesterday, my roomie broke the news about her best friend getting engaged.She had goosebumps while sharing the news with me.. That made me think a little deeper into the situation..
I wonder how I would feel when any of my close buddies would head for marriage. I will certainly be happy for her, but deep within there would be a pleothra of feelings- a mixed state of emotions..
Last month a close friend told me that she was seeing someone and their relationship was now getting a little serious, to the extent that they sought for a future together. She appeared to be calm and confident.Yet, when she broke the news ..I was a little shocked and maybe even disturbed.
I was scared as well as excited!
Scared , maybe about losing her.Excited,  about her excitement for the same..
Offcourse I am protective as well as possessive about her, not that her fiancee would anyways be less concerned about her well being, but I would certainly have to share my space with him. Certainly her priorities would shift from the senseless chit chats we did, to a greater more responsible level of maturity. I would no longer hold the same value as I presently do. Things would certainly change, sooner or later. That thought made me a little low.Yet, I was very happy for her! She seemed to be enjoying this new phase in her life and wished to share the joy with me..she described everything in detail and seeked my approval too.
I was overwhelmed and blank at her state of mind- her nervousness, her shy smile and the passion with which she described her new found love. This was a reason for me to know that she was happy.. She kept describing him, and I was glad that she had finally found someone to fill the voids in her life...
For the next few days, all she talked about was her conversations with him, about the changes in her life, how busy she had been because of him and how much attention he needed.I did not know how to react.Suddenly he was the fulcrum of her life.His habits, his nature, his family, his liking- disliking was all she cared for!
Like a good friend,I patiently listened to her, gave her my best possible advises and tried to be around in whatever situation she needed me....yet i could feel that the connection was gradually amiss.
While i looked at her like my old friend, she was gradually changing. Her life was now revolving around that relationship , her in laws, the wedding preparations and the similar things. Being a nuave in that department, I could no longer relate to anything pertaining to her.

Today the situation is such that we hardly talk on the phone.She is too busy with him, and I do not feel like disturbing her, moreover I am not very interested in talking about a person or a situation where I can hardly make any difference. Even if we talk, it is mostly about how her relationship was going. At times, i know she is going through a rough patch, yet I cant really help her.At times, when she calls up to share her excitement, i do not relate very well to it. What is even more weird is that she does not seem to mind the gap.Or maybe she is too busy with her adaptations that she fails to notice the gap popping up..
Like a sensible person, i have placated myself on the pertext of human psychology. I try to understand her viewpoint and look at only the positive aspects at her end. I try my best to act selflessly and to be happy in her happiness.
I know she is happy and that she has taken a step ahead in her life!
I also realise that very soon, I too would be taking that step, and maybe then I could again connect with her like before.
Till that time, I just wish the best for all those who are new in relationships or about to get married. I realize how challenging it is to ramp up with his greater responsibility in life, you certainly need lot of time and patience to settle in with the changes!
I also wish that "still single" people like me do not feel lonely or frustrated or whatever to see everyone getting married.Someone special is waiting for you too...there is still some time left, to learn from the experiences around and to share the joy of others :-)

Kitne ajeeb rishtey hai yaha pe......

For a minute , just close your eyes and think of all the relations you have in life----what flashes to your mind is family, favorite relatives, boy/girlfriends, few best friends..i believe these are the few handful of people we tag as “important”

In this post I do not talk about these important people, coz we already know their value. to be honest these are the people who hold the power to make us happy and to leave us crying…(sometimes I really feel sorry for the people who after breakup, don’t even talk to their ex..i mean-once you shared each and everything..and today, don’t even want to face each other..! or even the best friends.. who after a few misunderstandings, can never get the lost relationship or atleast the same bonding as before!!)

No---here I talk about the unnoticed, un acknowledged, infact not so important relations, we hardly chose for ourselves..These are the people who do not expect anything from you-yet unexpectedly make you happy, they do not hold any special place in your lives, their absence may not even be noticed, yet their presence makes you comfortable.

Am sure most of you don’t get what I am saying, and have already termed me as insane!!

Do you have any “hi-hello” friends? few ppl whom you hardly ever talked to, yet whenever you meet them-whatever your mood maybe-you smile at each other. thats your smile friend! who without your knowledge made u happy in all your moods.

Or do u have any fruit-vendor who suggests you to take banana instead of mangoes, coz he believes they are better. or the shopkeeper, who tells you which colour suits you better. Or even a bus driver-who hardly even knows your name, but knows the stop from where you board the bus, and even waits for you, if u are running late.

Or even a very old buddy, meeting after long time-who asks your whereabouts! he offcourse is not affected by you..but is still concerned..or a frn, whom you hardly ever thought of comes up to u and asks if you are all right coz he had been noticing your missing smile, broken leg or something of that sorts!

Do you have any special topics, which can be discussed with special ppl only..like I had a frn, with whom I talked only and only about a particular teacher, another frn with whom I talked only in the assembly, another person who read all my blogs regularly,and commented upon them..they are hardly my frns, yet they are important.

There are so many such ppl, ”ajeeb rishtey!!” strange bonds!!

Just for one day, think beyond the imp ppl , and concentrate on these ppl, who touch your lives, spare even a minute out of their own busy life and affect you!!

You will find loads of such ppl, acknowledge them!!And look at the smiles you get from them!! Suddenly your handful of imp ppl list will increase drastically!!

never take someone for granted
hold every person close to your heart
coz later you might realise
that you lost a diamond,
while you were busy collecting stones!!!

p.s.—it ws just the effect of this lovely song I heard,,I do not think this post made much sense. do lemme knw if it did:-P..

will post soon!!keep smiling till then!!

Dedicated to all my friends

hey people..these are a few lines i wrote for all my friends on friendship day..

but thanks to some problem on my blogger account,i could not post them at that time,so i share them now..

i maynt b a very responsible person wen it comes to making n maintaing frns..bt still m lucky to b surrounded by a few ppl like u..to listen to me..to scold me..to talk wth me..to guide me..to be wth me..
i maynt be very regular in making phone calls..or evn messagin..maybe i am nt d one to meet u very often..bt m grateful to have u..to knw tht u understand me..and also knw d fact tht though m nt in constant tch..bt still i care fer u and thank god to hv u..as a wndrful frn..at any and each stage of my life..
infct quite strange..i maynt evn knw ur fav color.or fav movie.fav hangout place..or ur fav dish..ur close grp of frns,,ur peculiar habits..at tyms i consider u my dearest buddies..bt still am nt aware of sch minute and obvious details abt u..like u dont eat mangoes..or u love sweets..or u like to drive fast..or tht u r damn scared of lizards..or maybe at tyms i donot evn knw wt made u feel spcl dis brthday...or wheter u r well or got urself fractured..at tyms i maynt discuss or knw wheter u r still single..or committed..i maynt knw whetr u passed or flunked in xams..i maybe unaware of small and big things in ur life..bt i knw a fact for sure..tht u alwaz r and will be special fer me..and wen i think of all my good buddies..ur name alwaz pops in my mind..
i hv spent some gr8 moments wth u..though wth tym..our bonds maybe loosened..b still nt broken..and dey will nvr be..
i cherish evry memory..frm schoolll..ryt till college...
when our major concerns wr the class wrks...or discussing d post of class monitors..to house meetins..to chatting and fighting in the recess..tp playing and enjoying d weirdest of weird games..to w8ing at cycle stands..to sharing evrythg frm tiffin..to notes..to assignments,,to thots..to fears..evry part of life..evry ups n downs..
on this frnshp day..i wish to thank u..fer being a part of my life n making it wonderful..u hold a special place..and though we talk daily or rarely..bt ur space is urs..can nt be taken by anyone else..i promise u tht i vl be by ur side wenevr u need me..feel free to ask me...love you loads..
friends rock!!