Life is interesting na!Sometimes strange..inexplicable..small things matter so much..few people matter so much..their opinions matter so much..their appreciation matters so much..
This i realised today..and actually discovered that it had been so right from the day i was born..
When i was born..someone cuddled me and admired my cuteness..tht made my mom proud of herself..as i grew up..i looked around for small appreciations..if i broke a glass or a toy or did any pranks..i was hardly bothered about WHAT I feel..what mattered was how my parents REACTED to it!!
Even today..as i have grown up..if i get a new haircut..exactly the one i longed for..the same i had been planning to get..for which i was so sure..but then..i dunno why..there is this strong urge to immediately meet my friends..and to see their reaction..if by any chance they disapprove...i become upset all of a sudden..to further confirm i ask for more opinions..WHY?why is this so?why do we keep looking for opinions..approvals..to be more specific!..
If i was so self satisfied about hw my hair looked..if mom was so proud of my cuteness..why did we want to hear it from others??Is this because we lack self confidence..or beacuse thts how we are!..or maybe because we all are keenly interested in others lifes..because we form opinions almost instantly..because we expect others to be as interested in our lives as we are in theirs..
Is this d case only with me??
maybe it is!
Think about it..whenevr we hangaround with friends..we get photographs clicked ..to keep them as our memories..but why the very next day..we upload d best of those pics on facebook and eagerly wait for comments..strange na??Suddenly the fun we had becomes secondary..and without our realisation..opinions and approvals take the front seat..
If i have a new crush..or met a new friend..or had a fight with someone..i would tell my close buddies about it..and keep telling till i hear.."what you did was correct!!" or even.."nah!buddy you were wrong".
Why?When earlier what i did..how i talked..whom i liked..whom i stalked..with whom i fought..wtever i shopped..whatever..it was all the best of my mind..best of my actions..best of my choice..Why to ask someone about it??
Well maybe..because thts how life is!Thats why man is called a social animal..living in the society..living for the society..knowingly or unknowlingly deeply affected by the society..(at times more affected more by others than self!)...funny though it is!!
Oops..m thinking so seriously about such a small thing..infact a part of human behaviour..our very own psychologic self..(though most of us are unaware of it!)..Such typical human trait...that too in my second post..what would people think of me!probably take me as a sadist...look..again..i seeked for others..your opinion..your approval this time...hehehe
will come up with yet another post soon..keep smiling till then..
i have the honour of posting this very first comment, and feeling really gr8 for commenting on a post on comments and reactions...
ReplyDeletenow after reading it whole, all i write would be of no use coz all is already explained above! n i'm thinking what to comment for now...!
ohk, here it goes:
deep knowledge and understanding of human behaviour was noticed, including very effective writing skills as the use of examples helped in relating the content to reality.
in short: "u rocked this one..." :D
very well written ishita.. the most commendable thing about this post was the clarity of the ideas.. and let me tell u, thats not only with u.. its the case with 99.9% of us... 'approvals': it might appear to be such a small thing to some people.. but thats one of the most prevailing characteristic of human psychology.. people look out for praise, knowingly or unknowingly. but then the question arises: y cant we take the responsibility of our decisions? y do we have to rely on others to criticize our decisions?
ReplyDeleteall this has already been mentioned in your post, but after reading the post, i could really relate it to myself. just while i was reading, so many instances flashed through my mind, when i too had looked out for such approvals! and we all do that.. every minute!
i would once again appreciate your talent.. i still wonder how such small topics, that are integral part of our lives, strike your mind??
:D [[ nicely executed ]] :D
ReplyDeletethis post is very thort provoking Sistah ! I totally agree abt uploading piks on facebook..... Sometimes, people just click piks to upload them ! ( I am guilty too here !!!) but I guess this is human nature... appreciation and approval.. ohh blessed are those who dont seek these two traits in there lives !!!!
ReplyDeletehey ishita!! nice to c u blogging!! n d post is too good..something with which v can relate ourselves..keep up the good work!! waiting for more :) :)
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