We live in a country, where most of the population is youth- the people aged
from 20-30, whose life is often stressful, without any particular reason.They
have high ambitions and low self awareness, big dreams, but small bank
balances, huge network, but less friends…we basically are a confused
generation. While each one of us thinks that we are the only one with a bagful
of worries, the fact is, we all are in the same boat…
My idle brain is habitual of coming up with some weird lists. Today, I thought about some quarter life crisis faced by most of my peers, or me….
We have decent paying jobs, not so luxurious - yet tension free life, still we are not happy.Here’s why most of us are worried….
1. I will work hard, and hard and harder, but why?
Most of us are driven by motivation; we are brought up in a manner that we look for rewards before performing. “Finish your homework, and you will get a chocolate”. “Get 1st rank in class, and this GI joe is yours” these baits drove our childhood..
“Get selected in football team, and then the girls will start noticing you” “Hit the gym, and that handsome hunk will come drooling after you” Such motivations kept our spirits high during teenage..but what now?
For the initial years in jobs, most of us were fooled by the “promotion” and “hike” bait showed by the manager; but as we matured, the sad realization of lack of motivation dawns upon us.
We all have our individual “To Do” lists, but are just too lethargic to start working on it.
My idle brain is habitual of coming up with some weird lists. Today, I thought about some quarter life crisis faced by most of my peers, or me….
We have decent paying jobs, not so luxurious - yet tension free life, still we are not happy.Here’s why most of us are worried….
1. I will work hard, and hard and harder, but why?
Most of us are driven by motivation; we are brought up in a manner that we look for rewards before performing. “Finish your homework, and you will get a chocolate”. “Get 1st rank in class, and this GI joe is yours” these baits drove our childhood..
“Get selected in football team, and then the girls will start noticing you” “Hit the gym, and that handsome hunk will come drooling after you” Such motivations kept our spirits high during teenage..but what now?
For the initial years in jobs, most of us were fooled by the “promotion” and “hike” bait showed by the manager; but as we matured, the sad realization of lack of motivation dawns upon us.
We all have our individual “To Do” lists, but are just too lethargic to start working on it.
2. Pyaar me sau uljhaney hai, pyaar mat karma@ Relationship
woes/vows
Gone are the days of sweet romances and mushy relationships. By the age of 25, most of us have had one sided crushes, (probably on that most famous guy in school, who was always surrounded by the cool dudes, and we just stalked his FB profile) , or on that cute girl, who unfortunately was already committed to someone, while you were friend-zoned. The luckier ones have been into relationships, been there, done that! They have experienced the sweetness of loving and being loved- but soon the practical reality of “future” takes the better of them, and now they have that insurmountable void,and have learnt to live with the pain of heart break. Those small percentage, who manage to get sailing on the boat of love, usually face hell lot of difficulties. Such couples live the life of Alia and Arjun in 2 states. Convincing their families, struggling every day to make their love story a happily ever after type fairy tale.
The above 3 categories cover almost all the youth of today , if you still misfit in them…then you are probably one of those innocent mumma’s boy, or daddy's daughter, who is lucky to be left with some child like innocence. Doesn’t mean your life is unproblematic though – coz friends around you make you feel miserable by discussing their problems, you can not really relate to them, and feel frustrated for feeling left out ….
3. Hum kis gali jaa rahe hai..apna koi thikaana nahi…
Yes, Sid of wake up Sid and Hrithik of Lakshya are not just movie characters- they are a replica of our lives. We are hurtling along the highways of invincibility- reporting daily to our jobs, without knowing any destination or future. For most of us, we often go on introspective mode- and feel there is something missing- something that would make us happy.This is a recurring feeling, that fades momentarily in the company of friends, on a happy day, but in a minute of solitude, it returns. Despite a well paying job, a set routine, professional satisfaction and everything being fine…there is still this blankness. A blankness that gulfs almost all the youth- a craving for betterment.
Gone are the days of sweet romances and mushy relationships. By the age of 25, most of us have had one sided crushes, (probably on that most famous guy in school, who was always surrounded by the cool dudes, and we just stalked his FB profile) , or on that cute girl, who unfortunately was already committed to someone, while you were friend-zoned. The luckier ones have been into relationships, been there, done that! They have experienced the sweetness of loving and being loved- but soon the practical reality of “future” takes the better of them, and now they have that insurmountable void,and have learnt to live with the pain of heart break. Those small percentage, who manage to get sailing on the boat of love, usually face hell lot of difficulties. Such couples live the life of Alia and Arjun in 2 states. Convincing their families, struggling every day to make their love story a happily ever after type fairy tale.
The above 3 categories cover almost all the youth of today , if you still misfit in them…then you are probably one of those innocent mumma’s boy, or daddy's daughter, who is lucky to be left with some child like innocence. Doesn’t mean your life is unproblematic though – coz friends around you make you feel miserable by discussing their problems, you can not really relate to them, and feel frustrated for feeling left out ….
3. Hum kis gali jaa rahe hai..apna koi thikaana nahi…
Yes, Sid of wake up Sid and Hrithik of Lakshya are not just movie characters- they are a replica of our lives. We are hurtling along the highways of invincibility- reporting daily to our jobs, without knowing any destination or future. For most of us, we often go on introspective mode- and feel there is something missing- something that would make us happy.This is a recurring feeling, that fades momentarily in the company of friends, on a happy day, but in a minute of solitude, it returns. Despite a well paying job, a set routine, professional satisfaction and everything being fine…there is still this blankness. A blankness that gulfs almost all the youth- a craving for betterment.
4. Dost dost naa raha:
On first reading, this point may seem totally irrelevant- we all have over 500 contacts added on facebook, are glued to whatsapp whole day. We wake up with pings from one friend, and sleep wishing goodnight to another. Our life revolves around ‘likes’ and comments,yet, sometimes, in lonely moments, we fail to pick up any single contact to call and blabber. Friends are merely the “contacts” now- bound by relationships which thrive on forwarded messages. We no longer communicate, we only chat. These chats merely keep us busy, and help us live in a fake virtual world, where we are active, and self proclaimed socialites, yet, we are losing the essence of friendship.
Sadly, most of us lack true friends at the age of 25. We gradually realize that the chuddy buddies or school gang of hooligans, who knew us well have drifted apart for a long time now. They are more like acquaintances, to merely wish Holi Diwali. The college friends , who are somewhat closer by heart, are burdened by same problems like us, there are cities dividing us. We try being practical, and do not fuss about our busy lives.
Unfortunately, we earn money, but have no one to spend it with- we keep planning re unions- most of which never happen. We end up partying with office colleagues or peers, who usually, are just an interim arrangement….because deep within, we miss the old days, and wish to turn back time.
On first reading, this point may seem totally irrelevant- we all have over 500 contacts added on facebook, are glued to whatsapp whole day. We wake up with pings from one friend, and sleep wishing goodnight to another. Our life revolves around ‘likes’ and comments,yet, sometimes, in lonely moments, we fail to pick up any single contact to call and blabber. Friends are merely the “contacts” now- bound by relationships which thrive on forwarded messages. We no longer communicate, we only chat. These chats merely keep us busy, and help us live in a fake virtual world, where we are active, and self proclaimed socialites, yet, we are losing the essence of friendship.
Sadly, most of us lack true friends at the age of 25. We gradually realize that the chuddy buddies or school gang of hooligans, who knew us well have drifted apart for a long time now. They are more like acquaintances, to merely wish Holi Diwali. The college friends , who are somewhat closer by heart, are burdened by same problems like us, there are cities dividing us. We try being practical, and do not fuss about our busy lives.
Unfortunately, we earn money, but have no one to spend it with- we keep planning re unions- most of which never happen. We end up partying with office colleagues or peers, who usually, are just an interim arrangement….because deep within, we miss the old days, and wish to turn back time.
5. Upvote, like, +1, approve!
Yes, this is another big problem most of us face. We always seek approvals and appreciation.We compare ourselves with others, and in the process, we ignore our own strengths.
We worry about our health, not because we need to be fit, but because others around us are healthy. We click pics, not to create memories, but to upload and get likes. We buy new gadgets, not because they attract us, but because they attract the attention of others around us. We put make up or use photo editing softwares,just to hide our so called imperfections. We have become hypocrites, just to gain approval and acceptance.
We easily get affected by our surroundings, and turn a blind eye towards our own morals and principles.Though most of us will not admit, but deep within our mind, we are always in competition- not a healthy competition with our own self..but a blind race to imitate others. We no longer put efforts to carve our own personality, instead we try to get the best of everything, and end up with nothing but a confused dis satisfied soul…..
These , and many other such things are the main cause of mental unrest for the youth today.Lucky are the ones, who realise that life is too short to waste in worrying about these small things , which will ot even matter some years down the line. We take ourselves too seriously, no body else does!
No one even cares what we are, or how good or bad we feel..what actully matters is our own peace of mind, that comes internally...by loving yourself and by valuing each day of this beautiful life... :-)
Live it!
Love it!
Yes, this is another big problem most of us face. We always seek approvals and appreciation.We compare ourselves with others, and in the process, we ignore our own strengths.
We worry about our health, not because we need to be fit, but because others around us are healthy. We click pics, not to create memories, but to upload and get likes. We buy new gadgets, not because they attract us, but because they attract the attention of others around us. We put make up or use photo editing softwares,just to hide our so called imperfections. We have become hypocrites, just to gain approval and acceptance.
We easily get affected by our surroundings, and turn a blind eye towards our own morals and principles.Though most of us will not admit, but deep within our mind, we are always in competition- not a healthy competition with our own self..but a blind race to imitate others. We no longer put efforts to carve our own personality, instead we try to get the best of everything, and end up with nothing but a confused dis satisfied soul…..
These , and many other such things are the main cause of mental unrest for the youth today.Lucky are the ones, who realise that life is too short to waste in worrying about these small things , which will ot even matter some years down the line. We take ourselves too seriously, no body else does!
No one even cares what we are, or how good or bad we feel..what actully matters is our own peace of mind, that comes internally...by loving yourself and by valuing each day of this beautiful life... :-)
Live it!
Love it!
Disclaimer: This list may vary for each one of us, I just
jotted down the points based on my observations and among my limited friend
circle.
Apologies in advance for Creep alert index of 8.3 on a scale of 1..10, writing this on such a late hour, that too on such an old old blog post.
ReplyDeleteAlmost feels like don't have anything better to do and also too much of self realization of situation.
That being said, just wanted to attack on this "youth nation" and this quater life thingy. Well I really don't want us to be one. Not for our coming generation for which we, "the youth nation", will be responsible. Time get our shit together, and get old. Just like regular people, but with fewer younger ones.
I mean wouldn't it be awkward for us having the population explosion in elder as well as repeating same mistake for the next "youth nation". Same number of elderly people as quarter ones. MATH. BORING alert.
Let me put it this way, while not clinging on the finer details which is your article is about, lets astray to this might be unrelated topic of - WAKE UP!!
Too much cynicism. And not forgetting the self criticism. Hi, I might have lost it completely.
Signing off, so sorry. Don't constrain yourself from deleting this horse-poop I have sprayed all over your comment section. Signing off, this time real wala. GN.