4 things that matter the most..

It is during the troughs of life , that you realize the true importance of those things and people who really matter.
The things that often come up, only through deep introspection.The people, who may silently observe you fighting with fate, struggling to win, may warn you, may scold you , may even give up on efforts of explaining things to you- but it's those people, who ultimately pick you up, when you are broken, and will fix you up.
Like I always believe, happiness is a state of mind- but the state, which can not be bought, a state that can't be achieved in a flash of second.
One is never lonely on the bright sunny days, when you are all set to rock the world with your dazzling smile. Happy people , charming personalities and radiant smiles attract people.
It's easy to multiply joys in a happy mind, but it is during those dark moments of solitude, that you actually need some company- the people who can deal with your crap, and can share their smile with you, when you have lost yours....
They bring back your faith in life, and make you fit enough to fight back...

Over the past few days, I have greatly found some good things about life

The top most of the list is FAMILY... they are the best thing that has ever happened to mankind.Most of us tend to be ignorant when it comes to expressing our love towards those people who brought us on earth, or who have been with us since the time we started breathing...
We mostly take them for granted- mistake their affection as interference, mistake their care for possessiveness, and their advises as lectures. In the teenage jitters, we even secretly wish to run away from the restrictions, or the household discipline-we eagerly await the time when we can fly in the open sky, and explore the limitless world.....but after spending 3 years away from home, and having to deal with the "limitless world"- one craves for the safe and cosy home. It's a relief that however bad everything turns out to be- there is always a fall back point called Family. Even if you don't discuss your problems with them, they will watch your back - when no one is around , they invariably come to rescue- their silent support, and a soft word of care gives the strength to face everything . Despite the fact that friends are important, but even the closest friend can not replace family. Family is like the last candle left in life, that is kept in a corner, but comes to rescue when the torch's battery dies out ...


The other best thing to happen is life is FRIENDS. These are the people who face the same problems like you, and so, you can cry together and feel lighter in each others company. They make you realize that  life is equally unfair to all of us, and because they don't take you so seriously, you can always blabber in front of them- without the fear of being taken to courtroom for all your weirdness or visiting a psychiatrist for getting lunatic.There is no fixed definition of a friend, but whatever the concept is- it is simply beautiful. At any stage of life, if there's a person , who can make you feel important, by just a patient hearing- that is a friend. They are the people who know the worst about you, and still handle you. They know when to take you seriously, and when to just make fun of your stupidities. They are the people, who will be willing to handle your mood swings - even at 4 am in the morning, and will introduce you to the good and bad things that you can together explore. Without friends, there is no sharing, no caring, no excitement--In short, having one good friend at every stage of life gives you the confidence to conquer the world. Even if you kick your enemy, and rush back to your friends- they will stand up to save you, they will arrange your bail if you are ever arrested, or will sit in the jail to give you company. They are your partners in weirdness, and punch bags to deal with your verbal bouts  :-)

The third best thing to happen in life is LOVE- an emotion which is both over rated and under rated. Over rated by those who have experienced it, and under rated by those who have failed to fall in love till now. Something, which can not be explained- but can only be felt. When both family and friends fail- your lover comes to your rescue- a strong hug will melt you down, and a steady embrace will not solve any problem- but will make you feel needed. Even if you feel totally flawed, imperfect, careless and all useless-- the mere look in the eyes of your lover will make all you blind of all your shortcomings. The desire to make him happy, and the sense of responsibility towards him will give you the motivation to deal with your negativity. You will have to improve your mood, because you can not afford to spoil your lovers mood for long enough.
Even after crying incessantly for hours, you will have to step out of the dark room, and comb your hair, before meeting him. He will be the reason for you to take care of yourself- because you know there is atleast one person who cares if you are sad. :-) (Family and friends care too , but this care is quite different)

The next good thing is life is INTERNET. Yes, I agree that I may sound like a net addict here, but internet is a savior during bad moods- you can spend hours doing nothing over internet- yet, at the end of the day, you will find some solace, atleast temporarily. There are many people who share their experiences online, reading them all makes you motivated. There are articles like "20 things to know when you are 20" or "37 things people regret while dying" , or "places to visit before you die" or " 25 books you cant miss reading", "Movies that change the world"...these , and many similar lists divert your attention from the current problem- and give your life a new direction.
They encourage you to learn from mistakes done by others, they motivate you to explore more of the world, and they show you that some emotions are same throughout the world- that you are not the only person unhappy in the world.
Internet is a blessing, if used properly. You never know when you get one step forward in solving your problem, and through internet, taking those steps becomes easier.




There are many other good things in life, like good food, strong network of acquaintances, old photographs and memories, evening stroll and watching kids play, talking to strangers and finding out something new, giving and receiving compliments,helping and being helped, etc etc..they all bring happiness in small packets..
Even if our mind fails to admit this, but the fact is that we only live once, and it is totally upto us to live that one life happily.
Even though people complain that life is a challenge, still, there are new opportunities, there are good people, there are newer things in life- all one needs is to take a break, quick fix their lost mind and the gather the courage to explore this beautiful life    :-)