smile..it will pass!!!

Sometimes I wonder how dynamic life is! Time changes everything about it! As we evolve –we mature-our priorities change-our feelings change-our ambitions change-our aspirations change-our circumstances change-our friends change-our relations change-our perspective changes-our nature changes-we change!!

What remains is the experience-what matters is how you felt at that time-how you reacted and made people feel about you at your dire situations. What appears to be the topmost priory( in all matters ranging from people, to goals, to commitments)..may appear to be cliché another day,and even childishness the day after!

Alas, we often react keeping in mind only the  present-we think we are the only hit target by god, and that we alone are going through this phase..when no body can understand us..we spend tym in tension, sleepless nights, irritated minds, with quarrels, those close to us, are the worst sufferers!!

Tym will pass!! Dusk and dawn follow each other, what matters is how you spend that tym- no wonder, its difficult to keep your cool..but don’t do something permanently stupid, when you are temporarily upset..

Mind your words! Mind your actions! Coz with time, problems get sorted, it always is so..But the losses done due to reckless behavior, or tantrums, may hurt your dear ones!!

So..Next time..When you are upset over anything..Smile..n say..”it will pass!” n thank the person who stays by your side. Behave nicely to him..keep your cool..Especially when things are temporary out of control!!

Will post soon..keep smiling till then!!

temples!!!

Recently I returned from a trip to udaipur-the city of lakes and mountabu-the only hill station in rajasthan-the desert!

Both are lovely places-bestowed by all the beauty of nature in the form of aravali hills and lakes.and blessed with humanmade attractions like the temples,forts,palaces and gardens.the trip was really enjoyable-yet made me ponder about the pathetic condition of temples in our country.

I donot intend to offend anyone-so those people need not read further, whose religious faith overshadows the practical irony I wish to point out.

As soon as I reached the city-I was surrounded by a bunch of people, we call “guides”..Who were all willing to spill out the already mugged (semi-cooked up) stories about the city, with spices..yet they would not utter anything unless you promised to pay them the price they demanded. And dare you bargain-they had a union!so u better agree to their quoted prices.

The first destination was “gurushikahar” temple at abu-the place was popular-thus all throughout the way, there were stalls and restaurants, where even a bisleri would cost 25 bucks. Its believed that giving others water to drink is a good thing-but these people didnot have the conscience to sell even at mrp-forget about “for the free” thing! The focus was more on eating than on worshipping.

Then followed a trip to “achalgarh” temple –the story says that the shaking earth was controlled by lord Shiva by sending his left foot’s thumb here. that thumb is worshipped at this place .i wonder if the thumb had the name of lord Shiva written on it-or else how would anyone be sure that its thumb-that too left thumb of only lord shiva,and none other god!!or was the story cooked up by someone ages ago, and has been told for generations now! (srry but despite many arguments the guide couldnot convince me about its authenticity!)

Then was a visit to “dilwara jain temples”-the place where the beautiful carvings and handworks on marble could win your hearts. but then the “beware of pickpockets” sign would keep you in your senses.

The sight of a poor couple fighting with the shoe stalls persons was a pity. I wonder if people can really steal your shoes in a temple-if yes-then what’s the use of worshipping if you can’t have a clear soul even in temple. And if no-then why we need to have shoe stalls at such places for safety…is it not the money making idea of stall owner.

Then was a visit to the “nathdwara temple”-a place of immense popularity. its believed that the lord here grants whatever you ask for! I wonder what decides this “manyata” factor! Suppose I ask for the same thing in three temples-and the wish is granted-should the credit be given to three of those gods, or to just “god”-coz its believed that god is one! Or to my hardwork!

Another thing I can never understand-people say ”if this wish comes true-I”ll offer Prasad of this sum of money—is it that you are trying to bribe god too!!:-P

On the entrance of a temple-a beggar blessed me and my brother that if we gave him the money ”bhagwaan hamari Jodi banae rakhega!!”..so we could not stop laughing(needless to mention that we did not offer that beggar anything).but I really liked the style of begging..Definitely the newly weds would give him a lot!

A person came to ask if we were interested in special darshan! on asking what that meant(we thought the god would personally visit us in our dreams like in movies!!)..but he told that on paying 250 bugs extra we could get a  back door entry to temple and special prasad, thus avoiding all the crowd. so now god is also more accessible to rich people. thanks to the commercialization !!

This visit made me realize the different activities in temples-everything but worshipping!!

You can see people bargain for reducing the cost of Prasad! People fighting with poor rickshawpuller for even 10 bugs, without considering the hardwork by him, people staring at girls, chatting on mobiles. admist all this lies the belief that this visit would clean your souls-but ask yourself-is the visit worth anything-if you can’t behave justly even at such places and maintain the decorum and charm of such places. Its time we understand the difference between regular tourist hangouts and temples and behave accordingly.

Will post soon.keep smiling till then J

WORTH WATCH!!

Bollywood movies these days are a pity. the so called “comedy” ones serve the cheap senseless dual meaning dialogues..the love stories are all the same-where ultimately the hero-heroine have to meet and get married..those targeted at the youth, start with friends and end up with love birds. the serious ones addressing the social issues end up with such a language that you can’t even think of enjoying them with family. when you leave the hall-all you remember is a few songs( thanks to tv and radio)..or a few dialogues..(atleast for a few days)—but recently I saw a nice and sensible movie-GUZARISH…

A must watch for everyone!!

The movie not only shows the pains of a paralytic patient-but beautifully shows a way to life! Hritik has perfected the role of a patient-who though is dependant on others even to waft off the flies-yet has the power to act as an inspiritation for others.he has a urge to live a good life-to smile and spread happiness.the man doesnot fear death-but fears a life where he can not improve himself..he seeks death-not coz he can’t struggle more..buit coz he knows his health can’t improve..and so he doesnot want to die a poor state!!

The scene where he suffers due to dripping rooftop-the beauty of the scene lies in the dialogues-where he is willing to fight..and yet has the courage to celebrate his death.

I imagined –if I were to die the next day—would I be able to celebrate like him??or would I waste my time fearing it..or regretting it..would I be able to have few  supportive caring people even on my last day..

Life is too short..what matters is not how much you get out of it..but how well you touch others life..

How we were born is not in our hands..but how we die maybe in our hands..by the way we live.

Cheers for his life!! cheers for his struggle!!

Will post soon..keep smiling till then.

p.s.- I know the post makes no sense at all..but just typed what came rushing to my head..so please bear with this oneJ. Thanks..

Bring the child back!!!

Hi everyone!!

Happy children’s day..today when I wished the same to my mom, she made me realize how much I have grown up, am no more a kid-rather an adult-expected to make a career, expected to vote during elections, expected to be answerable for my behavior..the feeling left me thinking..

Although having passed almost two decades of the journey called “life”, I still cherish the special place for the memories of my “bachpan”. i still enjoy celebrating children’s day, though today the meaning of this day, the feeling of being a child has been lost-buried deep inside the hearts .we have grown up, our priorities have changed for good.yet this day reminds me of how we have evolved from a carefree, naughty,cute,beloved and innocent child to a sincere,mature, sophisticated and ambitious adult.

Gone are the days when the biggest achievement was to clean my room,when greatest fear was to be left alone in a dark room,when naughtiest prank was to hide my sister’s things, when my best friend was the one who had same pencilbox as me,or who gave me chocolates. when everyone was a friend,and only enemy was the one who supported the villain in ‘shaktiman’. when “dad “ was the superhero.

The time when we were so innocent that we had many boyfriend coz all the boys who are friends were considered boyfriends. when one could endlessly talk about anything to anybody, without bothering what the world would say. when I could cry and throw tantrums for having “Maggie” as dinner, when I used to play cricket in classroom, without the fear of being laughed at!

When I did not have to worry about what to wear-when my mom decided what dress I would wear for important events,and I could carelessly spill water on those dresses. when party in school meant-“no uniforms”. When greatest worries were to hide the broken toys. when only failures were to lose in a game of ‘ludo’. when greatest excitement was to get permission to go to a friends home after school hours. When only ambition was to “grow up and be as tall as dad”. the days when tom and jerry was the favourite show on tv,when we could not understand titanic. when we used to fight with friends for things as small as getting a chance to bat first during a game,when the fights only meant no talks for half an hour,after which becoming friends again.when we were not allowed to write with pen,we used pencils and enjoyed the summer breaks covering the new books for next class.

Gone are those days,and that innocence. today we are changed! things are no more that simple or small-ambitions are high, expectations are higher. We have no time ,we have greater things to work upon! We have to prove and compete in this world.even thinking to live that life again is a luxury.

just for one day-rediscover the kid in yourself-relive those days-revive those memories-live freely-without bothering about the world, without worrying about the future. shout without reason!cry for a lovely toy in store! be innocent enough to be satisfied by a small cup of chocolate icecream.

Live like a kid! Love like a kid!enjoy being a kid!

Cheers for life!happy children’s day to the child in you!!

Will post soon!keep smiling till then!