I recently saw the movie- Pyaar ka punchnama, I know its very late to give a review of the movie..nor am I doing the same..but the movie left me in a trance. It made me ponder what basically love is, or is there anything called love at all? That day I read all the facebook status messages or the posts about the love and tried to figure out the emotions behind them and when I read them consciously, not just for the sake of liking or commenting on them, then I realized the sad irony that most of them spoke of heartbreak, or sadness, or pain, of trying to forget the other person, of trying to move on, some were even shockingly to the extent of cursing their ex lovers !
It made me go back and think upon the very fundamental behind this most popular trend of today’s gen next- quick fix relationships. Here I would like to request those who are committed or in a happy relationship to skip reading further, as maybe you do not like or agree to my viewpoints. For you guys, love is an eternal feeling that gives strength and makes everything look good! I totally respect and agree to your opinions..but presently I talk about not so sweet love relationships. Those who have had atleast two relationships till date..or those who have always been happily single..i may make some sense to you!
Well, is falling in love just about one person proposing, the other one giving it a thought, then remembering all the good times spent together, of all the jokes where you laughed, or the innocence of the proposal, or the special feeling when with that person, of how the times that seem to fly when with that person …and then you feel life is incomplete without that person..that when these few days of acquaintance can be so joyous..why not say yes and have a wonderful life forever! So after so called giving it a thought, the other person says a “YES” and then it all begins.
Then suddenly you feel like sharing all details small and big of how your day was, how your mood is , talk more often, spend time together, laugh even more, and that is when you feel committed to that person. The person feels like an indispensible part and you build boulevards of dreams, a fantasy world above the common crowd, you feel special, that your love life is different from the world, that you are perfect together. But as you discover more of the person, the otherwise neglected things also become noticeably wrong! And since you share each and every detail..you lose your privacy..you try to seek more attention and then the very essence of the relationship starts losing its effect.
You no longer laugh as freely as you used to do, because most of the time is passed in resolving the issues. You no longer feel the same excitement in meeting that person, because you already are glued on phone 24/ 7 and there is practically nothing to talk about. Some people go to the extent of talking sweet and cheesy stuff, building the dreams of future, but when it comes to even small matters like not picking up the call within 4 rings..you fight upon it! Do you expect to make a future out of such relationship, where such small matters initiate a brawl!
Sorry folks, but rewind your good days- when you talked because you wanted to, not had to! That could have been love..but love does not need to give pains..if it starts getting a pain in the neck..it’s always better to give each other some time off..rethink if that “yes” was said in a haste..or was that proposal made just because everywhere around we see people getting commited!
Its okay to be single, but do we really need to hurry into relationships and later regret !
Its not just a fashion trend to be in a relationship..its really ok if you just have many friends and a peaceful life! You do not need to take your good friendships to a newer level, from where it becomes difficult even to remain “just friends”!
So before proposing to someone, rethink! Do you need to label your relationship? Are you really serious and look for a future together? Or do you want to enjoy being in relationship for some time , then start facing the woes associated with it and end up a otherwise beautiful relationship on non talking terms!
Being single is fun!
